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I was pondering modern girls today, and what they say and do. I wonder if any of them are having a girlhood. When I was growing up, my understanding was that between childhood and being a "young lady" was a time called Girlhood, and I had one of these rich girlhoods, and thoroughly enjoyed it!
Walking in the Hills
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Potthast, Edward...
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It was not a time to try and be someone I was not- dress like I was sixteen when I was only twelve or behave like I was twenty-one when I was at least a foot shorter than a twenty-one-year-old-- though certainly I knew that what I learned in my girlhood were skills to help me grow up to be a proper young woman. It was not a time to continue to be a baby either. It was the golden time of youth, a time to play learn and practice new skills and a time to grow, but still be innocent and shielded from a lot of things as children should be.
Calm Morning
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Benson, Frank...
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A lot of my ideas about girlhood and what I should do in girlhood came from my mother's and grandmother's stories about their girlhood, and it was natural to want to repeat those adventures. I wish I had begged them for more stories now! The movies and books my mother provided certainly had a big influence on shaping my girlhood. I think that may be the difference in what I experienced and what I see most girls doing today. You see, I fed on an old-fashioned
girlhood, one influenced by such passages as this one from Louisa M. Alcott's "
An Old Fashioned Girl."friend Fanny's grandmother, who delighted in the old-fashioned songs that Polly was singing:
"You musn't mind my staring, dear," said Madam, softly pinching her rosy cheek. "I haven't seen a little girl for so long, it does my old eyes good to look at you."
Polly thought that a very odd speech, and couldn't help saying, "Aren't Fan and Maud little girls too?"
"Oh dear, no! Not what I would call little girls. Fan has been a young lady these two years, and Maud is a spoiled baby. Your mother's a very sensible woman, my child... You don't understand what I mean do you?"
"No'm, not quite."
"Well, dear, I 'll tell you. In my day, children of fourteen and fifteen didn't dress in the height of the fashion; go to parties, as nearly like those of grown people as it's possible to make them; lead idle, giddy, unhealthy lives, and get blasรฉ at twenty. We were little folks till eighteen or so; worked and studied, dressed and played, like children; honored our parents; and our days were much longer in the land than now, it seems to, me."
The old lady appeared to forget Polly at the end of her speech; for she sat patting the plump little hand that lay in her own, and looking up at a faded picture of an old gentleman with a ruffled shirt and a queue.
"Was he your father, Madam?
"Yes, dear; my honored father. I did up his frills to the day of his death; and the first money I ever earned was five dollars which he offered as a prize to whichever of his six girls would lay the handsomest darn in his silk stockings."
"How proud you must have been!" cried Polly, leaning on the old lady's knee with an interested face.
"Yes, and we all learned to make bread, and cook, and wore little chintz gowns, and were as happy and hearty as kittens. All lived to be grandmothers and fathers; and I'm the last,–seventy, next birthday, my dear, and not worn out yet; though daughter Shaw is an invalid at forty."
"That's the way I was brought up, and that's why Fan calls me old-fashioned, I suppose. Tell more about your papa, please; I like it," said Polly.This description of an old fashioned childhood (and what it was not) really stuck in my mind. Innocent little me got the idea from this that it was not good to party, "lead idle, giddy, unhealthy lives, and get blasรฉ at twenty," and lead a life that would horrify my grandmothers.
Sunshine and Shadow
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Many girls today complain about being restricted or having privileges taken away because they violated some rule (It always mystifies me why they cannot seem to understand that the more wrong things they do, the more rigid the rules will get!). My parents never had to set down a list of rules for me about what kind of parties I could and could not go to, never had to tell me not to smoke or drink or do drugs, never had to screen phone calls or censor my music or distrust letters from my friends. I never had the "you aren't leaving the house wearing that, young lady!" speech from my father, and never had a curfew. Why? I had no desire to do things like that! My parents knew me and I am glad I never did anything to cause them to distrust me.
Summer
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Benson, Frank...
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I had no need to have friendships that required secrets and sneaky emails or private phone calls. All my friends thought as I did and were enjoying having an old-fashioned girlhood themselves. I was happy with whatever party my mother thought was nice for me to have, and had no desire to try the other kinds of late-night parties that preteens were doing. Though some teens might get a thrill from trying alcohol, I was just as excited to find a recipe for Anne's Raspberry Cordial (Not the current wine sort!) because it was like the book, and to wear something that looked like Lizzie Bennet in Pride and Prejudice instead of imitating madonna. I probably embarrassed my dad the other way around, being two hundred years behind the latest styles!
Women Taking Tea
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Lynch, Albert
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And, well, there were some things that were easier for me than for some. For instance, because my parents did not smoke or drink or do drugs, there was no reason for me to want to do that. And I didn't have a curfew, but since there were a bunch of night owls in my family, I stayed up late at home with them. I was scared of a lot of things, and hanging around a city street lamp at midnight with a bunch of unrestrained teenagers didn't tickle my fancy.
Afternoon Picnic
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Well then, what did I do with my girlhood?
I played dolls. I put away my dollhouse when I was 18 (I was married at nineteen, just to give you a timeline), and still enjoyed playing house with my baby dolls when I was fourteen. I sewed doll clothes, crocheted little blankets and made doll quilts, had tea parties, took my babies on pretend trips around the world, collected little items to play store with, and found that I enjoyed teaching visiting little girls the lost art playing.
Day on the River
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Morgan, Frederick
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I played outdoors. I climbed trees with my brothers, I had a swing and spent hours on it singing and thinking. I got to ride in a friend's dory like Anne of Green Gables did. I took long walks with my brothers in the countryside. I rode my bicycle around and around our driveway and pretended it was a town in the old west. I picked wildflowers and stuck them in old jars and set up a stand to sell them (no one bought them, but it made for a lovely afternoon). I flew kites. I had picnics like my mother told me of. I played with little kittens and blew bubbles and painted rocks and drew the scenery. I watched the clouds and I made up stories. I raked leaves into piles or outlines of rooms to play house in ( I am still waiting for my playhouse, Dad).
Knitting Girl, 1869
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I read a lot of good books. I loved history. Because I started on the Little House books, I think I tended to like learning about 'the old days' and did not really have an interest in the modern fiction books for girls. Books and movies and people's stories all have an influence on children, and I can remember wanting to do those things, look like those heroines and have those adventures, too. All children tend to do this, and so it is a wise parent that will make sure that they do not hand their child any book or film to feed on. I looked at paintings and illustrations in my various books and read things that made me think of what I ought to do. My mother taught me a lot, to be sure, but I added these other things to form an idea of what a girlhood looked like.
The Seamstress
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Baugniet, Charles
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In McGuffey's readers I saw a girl with a kitten sitting in a meadow of flowers. Well, I wanted to go and experience that! I saw a girl taking a basket to someone. I saw paintings in my mother's books of girls playing with younger children, making daisy chains, sewing, playing dress-up, I read about girls taking long walks, mending, reading aloud with their siblings, play acting, etc.
An Elder Sister Tells Her Younger Sister the Well-Known Story of the Little Piggy
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Lawson, Lizzie
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I learned to use my hands. I was sewing since I was seven or eight years old, I was making my own clothes by the time I was twelve or thirteen. I learned to do a variety of needlework, to crochet, knit, embroider, paint, sketch, model in clay, clean house, bake, cook, make jelly, grow a garden, dry and press flowers, and do a variety of crafts. I do not do all of it well, but I at least tried it.
Two Girls at the Frame
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Koester,...
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It was not as though I lolled about all the time in my girlhood days, I had my share of correction and lessons to learn, and life, as we all know, is not "perfect." I am glad that I did not choose the path of fighting with my authorities, and spending those years in strife-- I would have missed out on so much delight, and the many lessons I needed to prepare me for my adult years, if I had.
Reading by the Window Hastings
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Lewis, Charles...
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Apple Gatherers
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Morgan, Frederick
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Kite
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Morgan
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I learned to play the piano and listen and appreciate a variety of music, I learned to sing in harmony at church, and learned to discern what was good music and what was "unlovely." Because my mother always has an artist's eye, I learned to look at the world around me and find the view.
Young Girls at a Piano, 1906
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Deluc, Gabriel
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Though I did all this and more when I was a girl, aged eight to about eighteen, I was being raised to become a mature young lady, who had a sense of modesty, of propriety, of being a Christian influence in the world, of cultivating a "meek and quiet spirit" and getting ready for the things that life would have in store for me.
Girl with Basket
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Young Girl Reading, 1776
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As I grew, the more mature things I needed to learn and do gradually took up more time, and the play time decreased, but it was a natural transition. I was not pressured or influenced by friends to go and do more "grown up" things at the age of twelve. No one made fun of me for my dollhouse (to my face) and made me feel that I was too old for it at fourteen. I sat on my father's lap until I was sixteen, and preferred to stay and home and do something worthwhile for myself or my family or my friends, than to hang around in the mall for hours listening to frivilous talk with girls who dressed like they were in college and who were not having a real girlhood.
Two Girls in the Meadow
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Two Girls at the Piano
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Renoir,...
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When I was twelve or thirteen, a girl who was a year or two older than I told me that she climbed out of her window at night to go off with her friends, even though her parents did not want her out at night. She told me so matter-of-factly, and I often wondered why she told me at all! Was she confessing? Making conversation? Infuencing? Fortunately, the influence for good that my family held was strong, and though I was rather dumbfounded at what this girl told me, I had no desire to take her path- it sounded like a dangerous one. And it was. She lost her girlhood a short time later, having entered into motherhood when she was not prepared for it (having given up dolls too soon!), has been a disappointment to her family and is this day sitting in jail. This seems like a harsh example, but it is a very real path that many girls have taken.
I have also seen girls who are rebellious against their parents, and choose to always take the hard path of discontent and longing for the broad way so they won't seem to be "different" or "strange." They are giving away their happy girlhood days for something else that I do not think should be called girlhood.
Girls, enjoy their girlhood to the fullest- take pleasure in the innocent and wholesome,do not desire what the world offers for girls. Worldiness and rebellion cheat you out of a girlhood. You have ten or more years for your girlhood, to create some of the best memories, to provide a standard for happiness the rest of your lives. Do not let your joy be shortened by the wrong influences- most girls now days have a childhood, and a girlhood of a year or two before they plunge into irresponsible worldliness they pretend is "grown up," and they can not go back and claim those precious lost years.
Some Recommended Materials for Girlhood:
Beautiful Girlhood
By Karen Andreola
Christian Charm Course - Student's Manual
By Emily Hunter
The American Girls Handy Book Centennial Edition
By Lina Beard
Little House Crafts
Abigail Adams, Sower Series
Books by Emily Barnes
Profile of a Young Girl
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Stone, Marcus
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Below you see that as we step up and into this hall, the back doors come in sight, and they happen to be antique bank doors found at an auction! The times of business hours are still etched on the doors..jpg)
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...a little bench that I can only describe as a doll's church pew!.jpg)
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And this one: A lady gave Mrs. Johnson this very interesting chair when a grandchild was born. It is a rocker with a cradle attached- what a brilliant idea! I would have loved to have one like this when my babies were at their fussy parts of infancy! How handy to be able to rock a babe to sleep and then easily put them to bed without having to struggle in and out of the rocker with them..jpg)
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The laundry room will soon have a "sheep" theme, as in "He cares for His sheep" and Mrs. Johnson has already collected some beautiful sheep to display! We shall have to go back for another tour when it is ready. Meanwhile, here are some funny little characters: these are egg warmers that Mrs. Johnson bought in England. We have here below, l-r, daddy, brother, sister, mother and baby with a pacifier! Mrs. Johnson enjoys serving her eggs up with this family when her granddaughters come to visit..jpg)
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Mr. Johnson included plenty of built-in storage for Mrs. Johnson in the dining room. .jpg)
Our gracious hostess:.jpg)
I am sorry I was not able to take more pictures! But I do hope that you enjoyed a few of the ideas of this Home Tour today!
